tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7768515858782631004.post1948566210856491436..comments2023-10-24T09:43:12.093-06:00Comments on MiddleSister: Not Marlo Thomas, But That Other GirlCarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02889603882259256735noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7768515858782631004.post-36111532906068256972009-03-30T15:59:00.000-06:002009-03-30T15:59:00.000-06:00There's a great book called Why Men Marry Some Wo...There's a great book called <I> Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others </I> by John T. Molloy. I think it would be a really good for you to read. It definitely changed my life for the better. Best of luck to you on your romantic journey (:Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7768515858782631004.post-65206022826362832642009-03-05T07:58:00.000-07:002009-03-05T07:58:00.000-07:00Cara - I have been so self-absorbed with our move ...Cara - I have been so self-absorbed with our move to Florida and have just now stopped to check in on a few favorite blogs. I laughed out loud at this wonderfully written entry. <BR/><BR/>It happened to me, too! I became convinced it was coming and turned into this tightly-wound and SNEAKY snooper girl who looked through underwear drawers in search of the ring. <BR/><BR/>In hindsight, my desperate behavior took away a lot of my own enjoyment when it DID finally happen. And, although it was sweet and perfect, it was also anti-climatic because I was so tuned into EVERYTHING. I put the ring on my finger and then was filled with a sense of "...ok...now what?!" <BR/><BR/>I wish that I had had the sense to just let it BE. I'm glad that you've been able to do it. I'll be back SOON!!Bexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17157342348881579249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7768515858782631004.post-68796735685130261882009-01-23T14:03:00.000-07:002009-01-23T14:03:00.000-07:00Cara,I would knock down the disabled and women wit...Cara,<BR/>I would knock down the disabled and women with small children to get at your book! Perhaps you should mail me an advance copy so I can avoid the clink? And I'm only loyal because you write so damn well. If you sucked, well you're cute and all but...... ;)<BR/><BR/>Thanks for responding to my comment. I get that you want the the fairy tale. But, wouldn't it be nice if Mike would say something like "we will be engaged within 6 months!" and then one day when you weren't paying attention, he rides up on a white horse with the roses and the ring and sweeps you off your feet??? You get your committment now and your fairy tale later. I'm always conjuring up the most optimistic scenarios!Lucashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13128442364616488882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7768515858782631004.post-52491957870060272222009-01-22T13:27:00.000-07:002009-01-22T13:27:00.000-07:00Hey, I haven't checked your blog in ages and after...Hey, I haven't checked your blog in ages and after reading a few entries I deeply regret it - your writing is fantastic and I've missed reading about your adventures.<BR/><BR/>Off the top of my head I can think of sooooo many smart, beautiful, independent, successful women who have gone through this to some degree. <BR/><BR/>Live those vows and everything will happen as it should.ThickChickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01933349763585424365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7768515858782631004.post-84623328490813857442009-01-17T12:34:00.000-07:002009-01-17T12:34:00.000-07:00Do you know what is so funny? Of everything I hav...Do you know what is so funny? Of everything I have ever written, this one has drummed up the most emotional responses! Lucas, you are in first place :) I have an inbox full of email from friends who are going or went through the same situation. All of my friends are strong women, but there is still that part of us that wants a little bit of romance in our lives. I think there is a right situation for everyone. As much as I feel entitled to, and am tempted to, just ask him myself...I just can't make myself do it. I just want a tiny piece of the fairy tale for my own...just one little piece, and then I will go back to being the ball buster I know I can be :) Thanks for all the great comments. Lucas-I would never tell you to go straight to hell. I fear that if and when I am able to write a book, you might be the only one who buys it :) You are so loyal! Plus I totally agree with you! :)Carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02889603882259256735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7768515858782631004.post-3925865777223126052009-01-15T09:48:00.000-07:002009-01-15T09:48:00.000-07:00Cara,Opinions are like assholes; everybody has on...Cara,<BR/>Opinions are like assholes; everybody has one and they ususally stink. That being said, here's a nice whiff of mine and you can totally ignore it if you'd like because that's probably what I would do if someone said this to me but.....<BR/><BR/>How come Mike gets all the control? If getting married is something you have come to realize that you want, having kids is something that is important to you and you'd like to do both these things with him, then why can't you approach it as a partner? You're in this thing 50%, you should get some say, or at least let your desires be known. <BR/><BR/>Maybe you already have and if so, that's great! I knew I wanted to marry my guy after 4 months with him. It took him 2 years to come to the same conclusion. He knew what I wanted because we talked about it (without me being the whiney, clingy THAT girl) and when he was ready for it too, he let me know. But we each knew where the other stood.<BR/><BR/>All I'm saying is there is low maintenance and there is people pleasing. It's your life. You only get one. Just make sure it doesn't pass you by while you wait.<BR/><BR/>And now, you may tell me to go straight to hell!! :) (Although I hope you don't because I think you are hilarious and an amazingly gifted storyteller and writer and I just want you to get everything you want out of life.)Lucashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13128442364616488882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7768515858782631004.post-21757063652502258522009-01-15T06:02:00.000-07:002009-01-15T06:02:00.000-07:00Well written. Can I suggest an additional vow?Vow ...Well written. Can I suggest an additional vow?<BR/><BR/>Vow to tell your friends to back off and stop putting ideas in your head. Tell them it will happen when it happens and you will let them know after the fact. But all this "ooh, ooh! He's going to propose!" is making you nuts.Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10780908199604484569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7768515858782631004.post-62153602626470587642009-01-14T18:55:00.000-07:002009-01-14T18:55:00.000-07:00Hi Cara! Thanks for stopping by. How funny is th...Hi Cara! Thanks for stopping by. How funny is that? Our parallel lives? As much as i seem to be hurrying things along, I am also so happy with where they are. Sounds like you are too! It's nice to be "gotten" :)Carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02889603882259256735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7768515858782631004.post-66469346975267239602009-01-12T20:41:00.000-07:002009-01-12T20:41:00.000-07:00This was weird coming upon your blog. My name is C...This was weird coming upon your blog. My name is Cara. My boyfriend of almost 5 years is named Mike. We live together, have furry animals, and talk about marriage and what not. I also did not dream of marriages and weddings and what not, yet I am feeling a little strange about not even being engaged yet. hahah. We can't even afford a wedding, yet i still want to be engaged asap. hahaa. <BR/><BR/>Glad I found your blog through sarah (chocolate ramblings, etc). :-)<BR/><BR/>I hope I am not creeping you our by showing you our similarities. heh. ;-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316331427936427121noreply@blogger.com